Sunday, November 8, 2009

Domestication

So I have realized that I can be quite the domestic woman WHEN I want to be. I love to cook and bake, I'm always trying to move around things in my room for aesthetics. I can do all the homey, "wifely" duties [if i so choose to] but then I have my moments where I can be the dude. For example, I'm going shopping for a frying pan. Yes, a friggin frying pan. For those of you that knew/know me, I would never in a million years say something like that before. But then on the flipside I want my dinner cooked and brought to me tonight, while someone else cleans and irons for me while I watch TV. Then again who doesn't go through that or have those "nigga" moments? As women, we are expected to play certain roles and do certain things, sometimes its automatically assumed that we're supposed to know how to cook and iron, etc. Then if you don't know how to do some of that stuff, people look at you like "what? you're a woman, you're supposed to know how to or be able to do such and such" That look doesn't come from just men either, fellow females, you know you are guilty of it as well! When your friend from down the block says she can't boil water to save her life, you know you have that thought in the back of your head "well how she gonna expect to get a man like that?" or "didn't her momma teach her better?" or even "how does she survive like that?"

Now before you get on me, I am not trying to play like I'm a big feminist, because you all know as well as I do, that I am most definitely NOT. But I do go through moments where I think about things and wonder why it is, or how it has come to be. This is one of those things.

I'm basically trying to say that even in this "modern" day society, women are still expected to play the role of the care-giver and motherly figure that takes care of all the household duties [at least in most cultures] while the men are bringing home the bacon. Yet I find it's not that unusual nowadays for a man to know how to take care of his own household duties. [I give kudos to the men that know how to cook, do laundry, sew and all that stuff, because the Lord knows that I don't always feel like doing all that extra ish] Society still has these ideals and responsibilities placed on women, but its time to face it that a woman can also be the money maker, and the man can also be a care-giver. The roles have not been switched, more they have been equally divided.

Anyway that was random. Take it how you want it.

- L

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